BELONGING/S

BELONGING/S

Belonging has an incredibly dual and introspective meaning.  When we love someone and they love us, we become part of them and therefore we belong to them and in turn, they belong to us.  Adding an “s” to this word, making it a plural, changes the word to Belongings, which are the personal effects of someone.  When someone we love dies, these two words belonging and belongings undergo significant change.  Belongings – all the things that were a physical part of our loved ones -- their clothes, jewelry, accessories, files and records, and everything else they own are disbursed to various family members or to local charities or other places that can redistribute their meaning to someone new.  So often, it isn’t easy letting go of parts and pieces of our loved one that were important to them, but putting them to good use can also bring a new sense of “belongings” to someone else.

However, the holy longing we have for our loved one - while ever present, can’t change belonging…that tie can never be broken…not even by death because of love and love means we belong and belonging means we are fully known and fully loved by God and one another.

“Everything belongs to the LORD your God. The heavens, even the highest heavens, belong to him. The earth and everything on it belong to him.”  Deut 10:14.  True belonging biblically means being fully known and fully loved by God and one another. 

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