HATE

HATE.   We should all hate the word hate.  Hate is an extreme and real feeling people can have for another.  Hate is holding a deep hostility with such an intensity, especially when someone has been wronged or deeply hurt by another.  Hate is derived from fear, anger or sense of injury.  In the case of grief, issues of hate can arise when someone we love has been injured or died because they were wronged by another, regardless of whether the act was intentional or accidental.  The problem with hate is that it can become all-consuming and fill our minds with such negativity and darkness.  Hate can and will stunt our emotional maturity.  

When someone has been wronged by another resulting in the death of a loved one, it would be almost impossible not to experience the feelings of hatred toward the person who committed the act.   But working through the multitude of feelings that hatred can spring within, there should be more distinction between hating the behavior of a person rather than hating the actual person.  But that isn’t always the case.  There are families who have passed hatred towards others down from one generation to the next.

Hatred creates blindness and blindness blocks one from envisioning a path forward toward healing.  Hatred can be all-consuming, changing all of who you are into someone who you are not.   Often times, we are not taught how to release negative emotions within us so we don't know how to proceed forward.  It's like carrying a massive rock deep inside, blocking the way through healing.  

Is there a cure for hatred?  Yes.  Awareness is the first step so that you can take a deep look inside yourself and seek answers that can help you work toward finding peace.  Whether it’s time to release the hatred, seek forgiveness, or discovering the underlying reason you hate, begs the question: Do you want to live the rest of your life in hatred?   If you hate, you may need to seek council to process your attitude and feelings.  Just be assured there is always a way to work through the darkness of hate in order to live in the light.   

“Whoever says they are in the light but hates their brother is in darkness even until now. Whoever loves their brother lives in the light, and in him there is no cause for stumbling.  But whoever hates their brother is in darkness, and walks in darkness, and does not know where they are going, because the darkness has blinded their eyes.  1John 2:9-11  

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