LOSS OF ABILITIES

LOSS OF ABILITIES

There are so many types of loss, especially as it relates to the death of a loved one, and it’s also important to recognize and address the grief we feel when we experience a loss of abilities.  Loss of abilities can occur from a variety of circumstances: a sudden tragedy where one can lose the ability to move or being born without the ability to see, speak, hear, or move, removing one’s ability to fully take care of themselves  The process of aging can bring many losses where we can lose the ability to do so many things in life that were once so very easy to do.  So many of us will experience times, whether it be short or long-term, when our bodies lose their ability to do certain activities because time is needed to heal or time has limited what was once so easy to do.  

What is important to recognize is that when we lose one ability, we gain strength in other abilities.  Our mind and our bodies learn how to find strength in other areas to compensate for what is lost, regardless of whether the loss is temporary or permanent.  God created us and gave us the power to be the most resilient beings.  We can choose to use that power to work through these losses.  Some people choose to grab that power and strength and move beyond all possibilities.  Some people choose to drug themselves or lose themselves into a negative abyss so very hard to climb out of.   No matter the loss, you will always have the power to choose how you handle you.  Use your humility to ask for help.  If you physically can’t do something, choose to find someone who can help you do it.  If you can’t see, choose to find someone who can see for you.  If you can’t hear or speak or write, choose to find someone who will teach you other ways to communicate.  If you can't remember, choose to find someone who can be your memory.  If you need help, find someone who can help you.  There are multiple means to an end.  You just need to stay open to all the possibilities and choose the ones that work best for you.   Find your own way through!

No matter the reason for loss, it’s important to give yourself time to grieve your loss, but use that grief to help you grow.  Let your grief be a source of strength that moves you forward.  Gain insights from other people who have moved through what you are now going through.  Let them be an inspiration in your own process of moving forward.  Be the champion in your own life. 

What makes a champion?  The three most important traits to the making of a champion is confidence, belief in your own abilities, and using your mind, heart and soul to push through difficult situations when most people would quit.  Use that indomitable God-given spirit to push through your loss and always, always remember no matter what…God is on your side.

“When I found myself in distress, I asked the Lord to help me, and He did.  The Lord is with me, so I refuse to be afraid.  What can anyone do to me that will hurt my soul?  The Lord is on my side.”  Psalm 118:5-7a (Clear Word Version)

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