GRIEVE WHEN GHOSTED

GRIEF WHEN GHOSTED

Being “ghosted” is when someone in a relationship, whether casual or serious, family or friend, simply vanishes, never to be heard from again.  They stop all forms of communication without an explanation or having a conversation with you as to why they want to end the relationship.  It leaves the person who was ghosted feeling completely at odds, often taking on the blame as to what they did to halt the relationship.  Questions naturally arise:  Did I say or do something that offended them – spending countless hours of mental energy trying to figure out someone else’s inability to maintain a relationship.  When someone ghosts you without explanation, this silent treatment speaks volumes to their having issues and how they handle conflict is to be outright rude, immature, inconsiderate and unreliable.  

Those are red flags in any relationship!

Try not to spend your mental energy and time trying to figure them out.  If they didn’t have the inner resources to tell you why or come to you with their concerns, obviously you can’t do anything to rectify the situation, nor do they want you to.  If someone doesn’t give you the opportunity to hear you out, leaving you with this odd sense of not finishing something of value to you begs the question:  Do you really want to continue a relationship with them? 

Still, any person who cares will feel a sense of loss because of not being given the opportunity to speak to what lies deep within.  Grieving is important to get through any loss you feel.  So, take time to grieve, but then…let them go.  Practice self-care by doing something that keeps you healthy like being with people who truly care about you.  There are a multitude of actions you can take to bolster your confidence and maintain your dignity.  Remember that a healthy relationship is a two-way street that nurtures mutual care, concern, and respect for one another and that if someone truly cares about you, they will stand by you…no matter what.

“As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend.”  Proverbs 27:17

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