THE NOISE WE MAKE

THE NOISE WE MAKE

Humans make a lot of noise.  Some sounds are background noise created by footsteps, breathing, coughing, groaning, snoring, sneezing…the soundscape list goes on.  The more audible sounds that come out of us are much louder like talking, singing, whistling, crying...  Sometimes the noise that comes out of us can be irritating to others or we grow used to them and adapt.  Regardless, by our very being, we create our very own and unique noise frequency.  

For those of us who are grieving, not only do we miss our loved one’s personality, companionship, emotional connection and time shared together, we also miss their “noise.”  It’s like a dramatic symphony gone quiet.  Our surroundings become completely silent and we realize, we can’t stand the silence.  Simon & Garfunkel wrote a powerful song entitled “The Sound of Silence” that describe some sounds of silence as “darkness” and “restless dreams,” which feels close to what that dreaded silence feels like to those of us who are grieving: missing all the “noise” that died with our loved one; yet, creating within us a new sound of silence permeating in our sorrowful soul. 

Whenever you feel you are in the darkness of complete silence, and missing the noise generated by your loved one, you are not and won’t ever be alone.  God is ever and always with you in all the noise and in the darkness and in the never-ending silent quiet of grief.  God is always there.  

“Sing joyfully to the Lord, all you who live on the earth…For the Lord is good, His love never fails and His faithfulness to His people endures through all generations.”  Psalm 100:1, 5 

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