LOSING A FRIEND

LOSING A FRIEND

It’s an incredibly deep heartache of the soul when we lose a faithful true-blue friend.  While we encounter and engage with many different people throughout our lifetimes through school, work, faith communities, local community events, family and social gatherings, there are certain people we come across in our lifetimes that we create a special bond and deeper relationship with and so easily and openly call them a real  friend.  We will cross paths in this life with many people, but a faithful and true friend is a rare gift.  Our life is better because they are in it as so many of our life’s memories were made with them.  A faithful friend is someone we grow a deep affection for, someone we trust, someone we can count on, provides emotional support, especially when we are going through a difficult period in our lives.  And what is unique about this relationship is that it becomes reciprocal – we want our friend to feel that same trust, support, affection and connection with them.  True friends are family by choice…a brother or sister from another mother, accepts you exactly as you are, and cares deeply about what happens to you.  

Losing a faithful friend is one of life’s hardest transitions to make through grief because when you need them the most, they can no longer be there for you in person, they still remain your forever friend.  They are the ones who have transitioned and are now your spirit friend...and will continue to guide you along your way.

“A Faithful Friend is a Sturdy Shelter and s/he that has found one has found a treasure.  There is nothing so precious as a faithful friend, and no scales can measure their excellence.”  Sirach 6:14-16

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