THE GIFT OF COUNSEL

THE GIFT OF COUNSEL

So many people have benefited from professional grief counseling or grief support to help them through the many rough spots experienced in the grief journey.  There are also people who feel that grief counseling would be a waste of time and money; yet, have never tried or attended a grief session or support group.   There may be feelings or personal issues you don’t want to discuss during a 1:1 session or in a group.  Yet, putting words to that inner voice in a safe environment is a healthy means to capture and release the multitude of inner feelings swirling within.  Processing what is going inside of you is also very cathartic in letting go of the massive weight of guilt and grief you bear.  

Take heed that some counselors won’t “fit” you or may not feel a connection right away because of differences in personality, values, and approach.  Every counselor has their own method of getting to the core issues lying inside of you.  Give the counselor a chance by going to at least two sessions.  If you still feel out of sorts with connecting to that person or it feels like you aren’t moving forward, don’t hesitate to find another professional who will be a better “fit” for you.   

In your initial sessions, make a plan on what you want to accomplish during your counseling session by setting goals that will guide you in seeing a light at the end of the tunnel.  In other words, counseling is a means to help get you to a place of acceptance and peace – not a nonstop, never-ending journey of pain and frustration.  Counselors are there to help you move forward in the grief journey, and ultimately, help to guide you through it.

“The purpose in a human's heart is like deep water, but a [person] of understanding will draw it out.”  Proverbs 20:5

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