STUCK

STUCK:  There are places inside the grief journey where one can find themselves getting stuck.  Perhaps someone who cares about you will bring into your awareness that you are stuck.  Getting stuck can happen, especially in places like guilt (unbearable guilt at what did or didn’t happen); depression (overriding sadness that takes over your life); anxiety (anxious behavior displaying inability to cope with daily life); anger (extreme hostility about the circumstances of the loved one’s death); obsession (can’t think or focus on anything but the deceased or situation); sleeplessness (extreme exhaustion caused by inability to sleep); suicidal ideation (wishing you were dead or thinking about harming oneself); prolonged grief (outside the normal range of time to grieve, i.e. 2-4 years; extreme grief (overwhelming sadness long after the death); addiction (turning to alcohol, drugs or other addicting behaviors to emotionally cope with loss); risk-taking behavior (going outside of normal behavior in order to deal with emotions); PTSD (flashbacks and disruptive dreams) or any place in the grief cycle where you feel stuck.  When you get stuck, there are Grief Counselors who can help.     

This is a great definition and description of how Grief Counseling works:  “Grief counseling is available and recommended for individuals who experience difficulties or get stuck dealing with a personal significant loss. Grief counselors believe that everyone experiences and expresses grief in personally unique ways that are shaped by family background, culture, life experiences, personal values, and intrinsic beliefs. Grief counseling facilitates expression of emotions and thoughts about the loss, and aims to help people cope with the physical, emotional, social, spiritual, and cognitive responses to loss.  The grief counselor facilitates the process of helping their client come to terms with the loss, by processing the thoughts and feelings that might come with different stages of coping with the loss. Grief counseling sessions also encompass segments on increasing an individual's personal and social resources to cope better with grief. It is the goal of counseling to provide an avenue for those who are stuck to seek a healthy resolution to move forward in their lives.”  Source:  Internet

It takes enormous energy to hold on to those feelings that keep you stuck.  Work with a professional who will guide you in going back in time to release those feelings that keep you stuck and give you the resources and tools that provide you the freedom to move forward.

“We are hard-pressed on every side, yet not crushed; we are perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not forsaken; struck down, but not destroyed." (2 Corinthians 4:8-9) 

This passage reminds us that we are not powerless, even when we feel trapped or stuck in life, and with God's help, we can overcome any difficult circumstances.

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