WHEN GRIEF DEPLETES YOU

WHEN GRIEF DEPLETES YOU

Grief can deplete the entire you.  The body feels like jelly…too tired to move…and too exhausted to even try.  The mind feels dull taking undo energy to revive any thought that seems stuck and won’t come to the surface.  The heart is so hurt, so swollen with tears, yet; too empty and too dry to feel anything.  Grief gets even more complicated because of the mixture of emotions that occur simultaneously within:  feeling lonely, abandoned, hurt, angry, lost, devastated, torn, overwhelmed….every feeling imaginable.   The multitude of feelings occurring simultaneously – not one by one – but one over one over another one can exceed one’s ability to cope.  Trying to unpack each feeling only makes one feel like standing in a corner and screaming because you just don’t know which feeling to start with nor which feeling you should feel first.

When grief depletes you…the worst thing you can do is feel sorry for yourself.  If you are feeling depleted:  STOP.  Take a deep breath and then another…and then another…until you can gently bring yourself into a state of calm.   Allow God’s presence to penetrate the hurt, the emotions, the feelings of loss.  Take another deep breath and allow God’s breath to breathe more life into you.  Then, let your mind see yourself being wrapped entirely up in God.  See your body surrounded by God’s love, embracing you, holding you, loving you and entering within you.  Talk to God about your loss and share the multitude of feelings that are overwhelming you.   Breathe again, letting in God’s spirit within you and surrender yourself into God’s hold…God’s comfort…God’s calm….God’s peace.   For God's heart IS holding your hurting heart.

“The Spirit of God has made me, and the breath of the Almighty has given me life.”  Job 33:4

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