WALL OF PROTECTION

WALL OF PROTECTION:  When we lose someone we love so very much either by death or broken relationships, we enter a time period of grief that is unbelievably painful to body, mind and spirit.  We can’t eat, sleep, or think and in every way feel crushed and forlorn.  Our natural instincts to protect ourselves kick in.  Slowly and silently, we start building a protective interior wall so that we don’t ever have to feel that kind of pain ever again.  Given the reality that death and relationship disruptions are a part of life - we will probably lose more people we love before our lives come to an end.  Still, this protective wall – this silent instinct tries to shield us from ever feeling that incredibly deep hurtful pain again.  

Yet it is that protective shield that can bring us even more loss because if we allow it to, the wall can get so high, we stop ourselves from the joy of ever feeling that deeply again about anyone.  We stop our ability to grow and the opportunity to deeply love someone else whether it be friend, partner or any significant relationship in our lives.  Stopping that kind of joy is even sadder because you miss out not only on having a relationship with another person, but you stop having a relationship with yourself.  That protective cover stops growth.  While you can never replace what you had with the loved one you lost, nor should you, you can still experience new memories, new feelings, and renewed hope in yourself.

So if you’re tempted to put a steel plate around your heart to protect yourself, be encouraged to risk putting your heart out there.  There are no guarantees in this life.  If you really think about it, do you want to end your life without people who accompany you, befriend you, love you, mean something to you or do you just want to do it all alone.  Take the risk.  Hurt means you’re alive.  It’s worth it!

“For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.”  2 Tim 1:7


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