AMBUSHED BY GRIEF


There are times in the grief journey when grief can just blow up within you with no notice.  It’s like a firecracker has gone off inside and sends a shower of tears, hurt and brokenness and the overwhelming pain of loss takes over your entire being.  The grief is so unexpected and so messy, your heart feels overcome with feelings of not being in control of anything…not even yourself. 

Something triggered the raw emotions you feel for your loved one and erupted them to come to the surface and cause an explosion within.  The trigger can be as simple as something someone said, or recalling a lost memory, or a relived moment in time.  That trigger is so incredibly powerful because you weren’t even consciously aware that before the explosion, you were even feeling so dead inside.

When you are ambushed by grief, settle yourself down by taking a deep breath and allow that breath to calm the eruption within.  Next, visually place your heartache in the hands of God so that God can be a soothing balm to calm the pain.  Finally, think about how that unexpected eruption could be a sign that the depth of your love is a force so powerful within you, that it can bring you back to life.

“The Spirit of God has made me; the breath of the Almighty gives me life.”  Job 33:4


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Dedicated to Kathy Parker

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