A TIME TO THROW AWAY

That word closure tends to bring a sense of unease to people who are grieving when asked if they have brought closure to the death of their one.  Closure is defined as a feeling that an emotional or traumatic experience has been resolved.  Truth be told, death, no matter how peaceful nor how traumatic, can’t be resolved because it is so permanent.  Nor do we ever want to close the door on the memory of our loved one.  

Then there is that saying about “Letting Go.”  We don’t ever want to let go of our loved one, nor should we.  Rather, we can let go of the pain caused by the intense traumatic circumstances surrounding their death and the emotional intensity of their loss.  But letting go of them…never. 

Take heed.  The emotional trauma surrounding the circumstances of losing someone we love so much does need to heal and often takes a great deal of time to come to terms to finding peace with those circumstances.  Keeping that hurt and anger locked inside the closet of the heart only serves as a way to stay in the pain.  There comes a time when there really isn’t a reason to hold onto that pain anymore nor hand the trauma of that pain over to someone else.  Perhaps the better term for getting rid of the negative feelings surrounding the circumstances of our loss would be to throw them away.  They don't fit anymore.  They have worn you out and are no longer useful.  It's time to throw them away.

Then and only then will you find true closure by letting the pain go.  Let go and let God.

“…a time to keep and a time to throw away.”  Ecclesiastes 3:6

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