INTENSIVE SENSITIVITY

No doubt throughout the grief journey, there will be times when feelings will heighten and result in the experience of intense sensitivity…to what people say, to the slightest provocation inside our thoughts, or how we feel about what is taking place, and even more importantly, how we react or respond to them.  We become delicately aware of strong feelings we didn’t realize were there and even the slightest offhand remark by another can set us off.  Even our physical bodies will startle easily, and sensitivity to any light or sound will become more intensive.  We can easily become overwhelmed as a result of our grief, and our bodies become drained of energy.   We find ourselves fighting back the emotional intensity by saying something we don’t mean or responding in ways we wouldn’t normally respond.

What really is taking place is an intensive sensitivity to the loss of our loved one.  We go into battle with our grief.  The intensity of our loss puts us into a fight or flight mode, which is reacting to the event or situation that is stressful to us and therefore we feel more anxious and become more sensitive.  To counter the intensity, we fight anything that could hurt us.  We enter into this boxing ring fighting our hurt, because our loss is so raw, so palpable, that we get defensive and  want to knock someone else out before we get punched in the gut.  The saddest part is we already feel so alone and take our frustrations out on someone close to us by responding not with our thoughts, but with our emotions.

Take heart, don’t beat yourself up.  No matter what happens or how hard grief gets, take a moment, hold still, then invite God into the ring with you.  God’s strength will be the shining star within you and will see you through...anything.

“The Lord will fight for you.  You have only to keep still.”  Exodus 14:14

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