INANE BANTER


While grieving, we listen to the comments and conversations of those around us and none of it seems to matter anymore.  We were once caught up in these exchanges, but now, they have little to no importance.  Those conversations have become inane banter.  We have to hold back from screaming out:  “My loved one is gone and you’re worried about some stupid issue or other unimportant thing. What...or should I say “who” really matters is gone and I can’t talk to or hug or hold them anymore!”  Doesn’t that matter more?!  Words become incessant chatter.  Background noise.  What is happening is that what others around us seem to be so caught up in isn’t important to us anymore.  They have moved on and the conversations that really matter have changed because our loved one is no longer here to join in on those conversations about daily life.

On top of that, people around us no longer want to talk about our grief either.  We are silenced by the fact that they don’t want to talk about the loss of our loved one anymore.  They look at us like “Haven’t you moved on?” or  “Aren’t you over this yet?”  The truth is:  Grief has no sense of time and we are just not ready to move on.  We are still hurting.

Who do we talk to?  Who really cares?  Who will listen?  Who will help us bear the burden of hurt?  The answer is simple.  We talk to God.  God listens.  God is present.  God cares.  God is always there.  

“Cast the whole of your cares on Him, [all your anxieties, all your worries, all your concerns, once and for all] for He cares for you affectionately and cares about you watchful.”  1 Peter 5:7

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