STUNNED DISBELIEF

When we become aware our loved one has died, we feel a stunned disbelief of this reality.  We don’t want to believe it.  We can’t believe it.  Eventually we are forced and have no choice other than to believe it.  During the disbelief, we get a little bit of time to absorb the reality.  We enter two different planes of awareness.  One plane is our minds go blank and everything seems surreal.  This can’t be happening.  It isn’t happening.  We can’t yet grasp and don’t want to deal with what is happening.  The other plane is pain.  Our emotions begin to realize the enormity of our loss.  The loss starts off as tingly arrows of numbing pain and soon grows into real heartfelt shattering pain.  We can actually feel that pain inside our hearts as we emotionally split in two.  

One side of our hearts is devastated by the loss of what life could, would, or should have been with our loved one.  The other side of our heart tries to understand that death isn’t just about us…it’s about life ending for our loved one.  We try to grasp that perhaps their lives are better off because they no longer have to face any struggles in life like stress or health issues or the fragility of aging, nor will they ever have to go through any heartbreak like we are going through now.  This protective shield for our loved one goes up as our own glass shield lies shattered.  

Put your stunned and shattered and broken heart into the hands of God.  God will hold your heart ever so close and will get you through those planes.  Truth be told, your heart will never be quite the same again, but healing will come.  God is the glue that will bind the two sides of your broken heart back together again.  

“He [God] heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.”  Psalm 147:3

Today's blog is dedicated to our cousin, Bill Richards

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