COMPLETE FRUSTRATION

Inside every single day during the grief process, there will be moments of complete frustration.  Being frustrated is that feeling of being upset or annoyed, especially because of the inability to change or achieve something.  Expect frustration because you can count on being frustrated.    Since there is no ability to change the circumstances of the death of your loved one, it’s more a matter of trying to learn to live without them.  Learning anything new takes time.  Add in the lack of control over the circumstances which oftentimes pervade initiative so the ability to achieve anything is difficult.  Listlessness, sadness and depression can also override momentum to accomplish anything.  Don’t be alarmed if little is accomplished, especially in the first six months following the funeral.  Two major reasons why this is happening.  First, realizing the impact of the loss leaves us lost.  Second, trying to grasp your new reality is too new to put together.  You need time to unravel and readjust and reinvent your new reality.  

Be assured your frustration will eventually lessen and you will get back to being you.  So don’t beat yourself up about what isn’t accomplished.   Be gentle with yourself.  Allow yourself the gift of patient waiting for healing.  It will come in due time.  Never ever ever give up.

Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.  Gal 6:9

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