ROADMAP THROUGH GRIEF

 Roadmap through Grief

There is no roadmap through grief.  Psychological experts have outlined the common stages of the grief journey, which are:  denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance and hope.  Even though experts have tried to outline various stages experienced in the grief process, none of those stages seem to acknowledge feeling so incredibly lost getting through them nor for how long we will feel or be lost.  Nor is there a roadmap that lets us know what direction to follow when we’re grieving.  Truly, there should be a stage called “lost” because there doesn’t seem to be a direction forward, backwards or within.   Lost is exactly how grief feels.  

Don’t lose heart.  Don’t lose direction.  Lost has a road of its own.  Follow the direction of your heart.  Keep following that special compass in your heart because lost will lead you to the next and then to the next and eventually to healing.  Don’t lose heart.  You won't stay lost.  You will be found.

“I once was lost, but now I am found.”  (Luke 15:10)

 

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  1. AnonymousJanuary 24, 2023 at 12:05 PM

    This is awesome Mary! You share the best info on healing.

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  2. Chaplain MaryJanuary 25, 2023 at 1:29 PM

    Appreciate your insights! Thanks for sharing. Mary

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