TIME OUT

TIME OUT...Have you ever noticed that when a team is struggling during a game, a time out is called so the team can revamp their strategy because the current one isn’t working for them.  When a child is out of sorts and can’t control their actions, a parent calls a time out to give the child time to settle down, relax and calm down.  When we are grieving and feel outside of ourselves or struggling with intense emotions because there is no more normal, or we feel completely blank or our emotions are out of control, a time out should be called.  Taking a time out to calm down and think about what is going on inside of ourselves is vital to the process of healing.  We have to touch base and tap into what is happening within and connect to any given emotion(s) we are experiencing and to fully realize what we are feeling and why we are feeling it.  Doing so can lower our anxiety and bring a greater awareness of what struggle is taking place within us.  It’s like touching the inside of our hearts and gently massaging a healing balm onto it that can settle down and sooth us, which oftentimes brings a deeper calm.  Time out doesn’t necessarily make the feelings completely disappear, or the circumstances change, but it does bring a wider understanding into what we are feeling, what grief can do to us, and where we are inside of it.  Oftentimes when we can bring light into our darkness, we can revamp our emotions and move ourselves in a different direction.  Those time out moments can turn our distress into feeling blessed because we can step back to realize and better understand what really is going on inside our hearts.  

If you need a time out today…take it!


"There is a time for everything…a time to search and a time to give up, a time to keep and a time to throw away, a time to tear and a time to mend, a time to be silent and a time to speak…" 

              Ecc 3:1a; 6-7

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