GRIEF HURTS


Grief hurts.  It’s not the kind of pain or hurt you can place a band-aid on, but an incredibly deep wound inside the heart.  Grief also feels like a piercing pain in the soul.  Even though the chronic ache may subside at times, it seems that it will never completely go away.  How long is this pain going to last?  Am I always going to feel like this?  Nothing seems to soothe that ache inside of me.  

It’s tempting to drink alcohol or take pills or inject drugs to lessen the pain.  The problem with doing that is the pain goes numb for awhile, but then the pain gets even more intense and hurts even more deeply when the high wears off.

The best way to get through the pain is to live through it.  Face it head on and live straight through it.  Without numbing.  Without skipping the long road in the grief journey.  You have to go through the grief to get to the other side.  All of it.  

Accept this truth:  You never get over the loss of your loved one, but you will get through it…and in time the intensity of your pain will lessen and you will come to a place of peace.  Each person’s grief journey is different so the timing is different for each person.  For today, be assured some day the pain will end.  Amen.

"Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths."  Prov 3:5-6


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