OUT OF ORDER

 Out of Order

Life, or should I say Death…so often can occur out of order, especially when we lose a child or someones life ends who is so much younger than we are.  That someone hasn’t yet had the chance to live out their lives.  They have been robbed of the opportunity to live through their entire life.  Every answer to “why?” is left blank.  No one can explain why because no one knows why.   This is when we have to take that blank and live with never being able to make sense of it.  We are not living life in their shoes, nor are they living their life in our shoes.  This is when we have to, whether we like it or not, understand that whatever happened to them...in the end, ultimately it was their life's destiny…and, ultimately, it is their death's destiny.  We have to accept that truth even though we cannot understand it.  We will never fully understand it.  But…if we can truly understand that Life and Death are part of each other and happen to each one of us during our varying limited lifetimes, and when we can fully trust God with their/our life...and trust God with their/our death, then acceptance can bring us a greater sense of peace.  After all...Life and Death are One.

‘This is what the Lord says: See, I am setting before you the way of life and the way of death.'

Jer 21:8


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