BRIGHT SPOTS

 BRIGHT SPOTS

In the midst of intense grief, within those moments of deep “missing” and feelings of loss, there is a place within that needs to peek ahead – perhaps it’s as simple as to name it a moment called hope.  Still, there is place within each of us that needs assurance that “I’m not always going to hurt this badly.”  Until the intensity of hurt and loss lessens, which it will, there are some small steps you can take to feel your heavy load will lighten at some point ahead.  Very simply…give yourself something to look forward to.  It can be something as simple as taking a walk around the block or sitting on a park bench enjoying the breeze or holding a child or reading a poem or devotion or observing scenes of nature in your neighborhood or having lunch with a friend.  Alongside your grief, you need to make sure you add something out of your ordinary into your routine.  You can call these moments bright spots.  And at the end of the day, pay attention to that bright spot.   Notice that alongside your thoughts of sadness and grief, you added a bright spot beside it.  Write that bright spot into your calendar or journal.  Without a doubt…God was inside that bright spot.  Recall that hopeful and hope-filled line in Isaiah’s Scripture…”the people who walked in darkness will see a great light.”  


                             You, LORD, are my lamp; the LORD turns my darkness into light.

2Sam 22:29

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