Moments with Mary

DEATH OF A PET - So many of us have developed a deep and lasting relationship with our pets.  It could be a dog, cat, horse, bird, fish, or any type of being that for some reason, we relate to in a way that is truly one of a kind.   The connection with our pet is a bond outside of our own human-to-human nature.  It’s amazing how our pet(s) can sense us on an emotional level that humans can’t.  Perhaps it’s because they pay attention to us in ways other human’s don’t.  While pets can’t talk, they communicate with us through observation, touch, and simply being present to us.  An even deeper connection is created when something goes wrong in our lives, our Pet can sense it and they respond to us differently than humans do because they “know” something isn’t right with us.  They don’t try to fix it.  They look at us with their piercing, compassionate eyes that tell us they are there for us.  Perhaps the bond gets even deeper  because w...

With such intense and immediate media resources, we hear about tragedies as they are happening almost on a daily basis all over our world.  Natural disasters and other catastrophes such as mass shootings, accidents, fires, building collapses, wars, and human suffering pervade our subconscious.  This inner awareness keeps us on edge about the ongoing tragedy around our world.  On the one hand, there is this hidden wall of complacency because we feel helpless and distance ourselves because we can’t fathom what exactly we need to do to help.  Yet in our interior being, we feel this in-depth human compassion for those who are living through such heartache and pain.  Our emotional Richter scale hovers over this invisible line on a human scale creating this sense of urgency to help those in dyer need over this sense of helplessness and complete inability to do anything.   Of course we can send money to gofundme or so many other organizations that are better ...

So often when people acknowledge the death of a loved one to those who are grieving, we say “I’m sorry” or “I’m sorry for your loss.”  This quick exchange is usually a segway line in hopes to quickly change the subject and talk about something else.  Most of us are uncomfortable with the subject matter because we really don’t know what to say and want to change the conversation thinking it better to protect the grieving person from talking about their grief.  What doesn't make sense is we normally say “I’m sorry” when we seek forgiveness because we’ve done something to hurt or offend another.  We know we didn’t hurt the person we are offering our “I’m sorries” to, even though we know they are hurting.  Saying “I’m sorry” is like putting a bandaid over an incredibly deep and sorrowful wound.  In actuality, saying “I’m sorry” makes us feel better and doesn’t really validate the deeper grief and open wound experienced for those who are grieving.  I’m sorr...

There is nothing holier than the sound of the silent heartbeat of a child wrapped inside the womb of its mother tied to her through an inner connecting cord of life.  Many babies are able to travel through the birth canal after nine months and are cut free from that life-bond cord to live on their own.  Then there are those who were not able to make it through the canal to journey into life outside the womb.  Those moms remain heartbroken because that life inside of them did not get to finish in their creation.  Left to suffer through interior grief, the silent heartache of parents remain hidden for their child every single day, especially on every uncelebrated birthday.   There are no human words that bring comfort.  Nothing nor anyone can ever replace or fill the void of that beautiful life that started its journey, but came to a sudden end.  Only the hurtful pangs of an unfinished birth echo a deep remembrance for a life that could have been....